Friday, July 18, 2008


My response to Steve Stanley's email

I was very pleased when I saw Steve's email, and as I promised, I deleted certain posts as a way to remove the harshness and stigma that would have been here forever. I do not want anyone injured, including myself. My goal has been and still is, to come to an understanding of facts and issues, which have arisen out of the release of the Chris Lucey cd in 2002, and the subsequent realities and responsibilities that accompany that release.

I know that Steve's heart was in the right place when he started, and that malice was never his intention. Even as he offered to give me his check for writing the Mojo article, he was attempting to give me something that he believed I was due. That money was his, so I could not have taken it, but I do understand that it was a gesture of kindness by him.

Steve Stanley does not owe me money, Rev-Ola Records and Joe Foster owe me money, as does ACE Records UK, who are involved with Rev-Ola, regarding the licensing of Chris Lucey. Steve was able to secure a small check for me, from ACE, $127.15, some months ago and I now publicly thank him for doing that. It was not his obligation to do so, nor was it his obligation to give me money for his writing of the Mojo article.

As I have said, and reiterate here, Steve included in that article, my requests, that not being paid for my writing and recording in the past, be included in his article, as well as that the Chris Lucey album was written, recorded, and released before Love's first album. He did this quite graciously, and I thank him for it here.

As you can see from Steve's email, his position on certain issues has modified, and I told him that I have made more mistakes than most in my life, but that moving forward in the end is always the best point of any achievement. Everybody screws up from time to time but the point is we get better at this thing called life by growing as people from the inside out.

If I was held responsible, forever, for all the stupid and hurtful things I've done in the past, I would be in prison for life. It takes a lot of character to admit that things got a bit out of hand, but it is imperative that I make clear that I do not hold a grudge for Steve Stanley, or feel as though I have won anything.

What is clear to me in this whole thing, is that everyone can win a little and give in a little, so that in the end what was once a sticking point, now becomes a valuable lesson learned and that the future will be smoother because of gains we have made here.

I had to literally die from addiction and suicide to become willing to change. I would hope that some can take a lesson from Steve Stanley, and become willing to change and progress without having to reach rock bottom to do so, as I did. I was able to find sobriety by the admission of my own defeat. It does not have to always be that hard.

At any time, anywhere, we can alter our course because it is sensible not because we are forced to. I have the greatest respect for Steve Stanley and the courage it took to wage this battle in public, but more so, for his courage to press on with me, and together reach an outcome that is good for both of us. Thank you Steve and I will now think of you as my friend. Bobby


  1. Nice to see and here you bro! Following the blog regularly and checking out your music..
    Chris in DC

  2. HEAR you, I meant. Gosh how embarrassing!!

  3. CHRIS,
    No problem I'm always doing that, my favorite mistake is except instead of accept.

  4. Nice to hear your voice today, Bobby! Keep on, my friend!

  5. You're NOT "a stupid guy" and we out here love seeing and hearing you! Thanks for your continued postings and for getting your story, the TRUE story, out into the world.

  6. Just a note to let you know that I check here every day for new posts.
    I hope you don't mind us peering into your life like this. I find all of this so fascinating. May your pain diminish as your words flow out Bobby.